Howdy, I am the editor. I am a thirty-something living in the UK. live with my husband and two children in the middle of the country. My husband and I started our Dd lifestyle (for want of a better name) around 4 years ago, just as were getting married. I found the Christian Domestic Discipline website online and I will admit at first I was horrified. I thought this was wife beating in a different name, backed up be religion. Something however kept dragging me back there and eventually I found the TIH website (see our link page). It's ethos totally made sense to me, allowing my husband to lead our marriage, lovingly and allowing me to take more of a back seat in terms of decision making. I showed my husband the website and suggested that we might want to give it a go, without a seconds thought he said, 'definitely!' - I wonder how long he had wanted to live this way!
In the beginning it was hard. It was full of ups and downs and highs and lows. We would sway from, 'wow this is amazing' to 'I can't do this it's too hard'. Our problem was that although he had been brought up with a dominant father figure, I had not. I had been raised in a difficult household, where my mother was angry and bulshy and my father did anything for an easy life, though thought it was out of love. The outcome was a household full of anger and confusion and an eventual divorce 25 years later!
I had been raised to speak my mind immediately, without thought for hurting others, I was challenging at the best of times, needed boundaries but fought against them at every opportunity. I constantly challenged my husband for power in our relationship, and if someone doesn't give in at some point, this generally makes for huge blazing rows. We didn't have those though as my husband used to bite his tongue. If we did row, I would be mean. It is horrible to admit it, but I used to find articulating my feelings difficult so I would get angry and say things that I often didn't mean.
Four years down the line, I love this lifestyle - that is why I decided to write this website. This lifestyle empowers me and my husband. People constantly ask us what our secret is!
My husband spanks me when I get out of line - of course he does, that is the very nature of this kind of marriage. Do I like being spanked? No, it hurts. But what I do love is that he is man enough to do what it takes to protect our family and marriage. That he steps up and has taught me to calmly express myself, not to be mean, the think before I speak and to be loving and respectful.
I hope you love this site as much as I do. It has been in my head for years and it's lovely to now see it on a screen. When we started this I found lots of information out there about how exactly to spank a wife, about how to live this way according to other marriages, and various helpful blogs from the point of view of women exploring their issues around it. But what I felt was needed was this site. A home for the wives and girlfriends for advice and information. It is very hard to reach a good place in this lifestyle. I now feel that i have, four years in and I want to help others to find their own way and feel just as I do, no longer questioning, no longer struggling, 100% content and relaxed in this choice of ours. And most of all, loved and very happy.
Thank you for stopping by, please feel free to contribute to the site by going to our contribute section.
see you again soon!
D
In the beginning it was hard. It was full of ups and downs and highs and lows. We would sway from, 'wow this is amazing' to 'I can't do this it's too hard'. Our problem was that although he had been brought up with a dominant father figure, I had not. I had been raised in a difficult household, where my mother was angry and bulshy and my father did anything for an easy life, though thought it was out of love. The outcome was a household full of anger and confusion and an eventual divorce 25 years later!
I had been raised to speak my mind immediately, without thought for hurting others, I was challenging at the best of times, needed boundaries but fought against them at every opportunity. I constantly challenged my husband for power in our relationship, and if someone doesn't give in at some point, this generally makes for huge blazing rows. We didn't have those though as my husband used to bite his tongue. If we did row, I would be mean. It is horrible to admit it, but I used to find articulating my feelings difficult so I would get angry and say things that I often didn't mean.
Four years down the line, I love this lifestyle - that is why I decided to write this website. This lifestyle empowers me and my husband. People constantly ask us what our secret is!
My husband spanks me when I get out of line - of course he does, that is the very nature of this kind of marriage. Do I like being spanked? No, it hurts. But what I do love is that he is man enough to do what it takes to protect our family and marriage. That he steps up and has taught me to calmly express myself, not to be mean, the think before I speak and to be loving and respectful.
I hope you love this site as much as I do. It has been in my head for years and it's lovely to now see it on a screen. When we started this I found lots of information out there about how exactly to spank a wife, about how to live this way according to other marriages, and various helpful blogs from the point of view of women exploring their issues around it. But what I felt was needed was this site. A home for the wives and girlfriends for advice and information. It is very hard to reach a good place in this lifestyle. I now feel that i have, four years in and I want to help others to find their own way and feel just as I do, no longer questioning, no longer struggling, 100% content and relaxed in this choice of ours. And most of all, loved and very happy.
Thank you for stopping by, please feel free to contribute to the site by going to our contribute section.
see you again soon!
D