This lifestyle is very difficult to sum up, because it is very different to everyone who practices it. But generally speaking, the 'husband wears the trousers and is firmly and actively in charge' (TakeninHand.com). The women try to submit to their husband's leadership lovingly but have just as much to say in family decisions and her voice is always heard and never ignored. The man is loving, caring, kind and selflessly takes responsibility for the family. In many such relationships, the woman chooses to allow her husband to punish her if she is disrespectful, dishonest or endangers herself or others. Here are a few quotes from others who adeptly articulate what this lifestyle is to them. Please add or submit a definition if you think you can articulate it any better and we will add it to the page!
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'I have learned in that time the beautiful balance between a HOH and TIH can lead to a peaceful place, a tranquil refuge from the often stressful lives we lead, and most importantly a home where a man and woman can express their love for one another. It takes time and a strong man to understand his Dominant nature. A Dominant is not a dictator. A Head of Household is more of a guide to take in hand his wonderful submissive partner and guide them both continually along a path of happiness.' (MrBBSpanker http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.co.uk/p/introductions.html)
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' I have never felt such relief, such internal peace in my life. This whole idea of being loved and trusting enough in another to place my, his and our well-being into his hands was exactly what I have been searching for my whole life.' (Melissa, http://www.takeninhand.com/)
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'A Taken In Hand relationship is a fully-committed wholehearted sexually-exclusive marriage in which the husband wears the trousers and is firmly and actively in charge (to his wife's delight!)—and he puts his wife and their relationship first. Putting her and the relationship first is the key to creating a marriage in which the man is in control in a good, healthy and sustainable way.'
(http://www.takeninhand.com/what.is.a.taken.in.hand.relationship)
(http://www.takeninhand.com/what.is.a.taken.in.hand.relationship)
"Spanking is for discipline. Sometimes it’s for punishment but also for direction. It’s a means of helping the woman do those things that are important for her welfare as well as for the welfare of the home. Some men spank their wives if they don’t take care of themselves though exercise, diet, etc. I sometimes spank my wife if she hasn’t done enough artwork—because that’s something that’s really good for her. I also use spanking if she neglects her daily tasks because it keeps the house, her world, and our lives in order. Spanking keeps the chaos at bay. " ( MICK @ http://mickandlyndasblog.blogspot.co.uk/p/letter-to-hoh-most-viewed-from-old-blog.html)
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